In order to have a successful marriage's recipe between a man and a woman, you have to understand that these ingredients are very important. If you forget one of these ingredients, your marriage might not be as happy as it could be.
First of all, prepare a large bowl full of space in order to let both partners fully express themselves and grow together.
Mix together:
2 hearts of love
2 heads of patience
1 barrel of commitment
Secondly, in another bowl whip together these ingredients:
1 cup of understanding
1 cup of forgiveness
1 cup of kindness
1 cup of respect
1 cup of trust
1 cup of unselfishness
1 cup of responsibility
1 cup of support
1 cup of patience
1 cup of sense of humor
Finally, stir together and pour into prepared heart.
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Mixed marriage
Mixed marriage
In the 21st century a mixed marriage is a common thing. Unfortunately, in some countries life might be impossible, if you marry someone who is from another country. For instance, Indonesia only recognizes the rights of citizens. The laws do not provide the right to marry someone of another nationality. If it happens, the children are considered to be citizens of a different country. The understanding of a mixed marriage depends only on the person’s world outlook. For some people it is very important to have a husband of the same race and traditions. For other people, having a mixed marriage doesn’t mean anything, as feelings plays a huge role in relationships, doesn’t matter how different people are. Is it possible to have a mixed marriage if your religion and culture is different and you may lose your personality?
First of all, a different religion can be the biggest obstacle in marriage. Both partners have to be empathic. In order to realize that people are not the same and every person has the right to choose and accept a certain religion. Moreover, you have to find a compromise with your spouse. Unfortunately, it can be very hard to agree on which religion they have to teach their children. As a result, parents have to think about it before planning a child. The most important thing is to understand your partner’s beliefs and decide on religion your family will confess.
Secondly, diverse cultures can cause disagreements. You can misunderstand your spouse by having arguments about traditions, art, manner or the knowledge and understanding of the world. On the other hand, if your spouse is an open-minded person, you will mutually complete each other. Person’s culture can tell a lot about his traits and lifestyle. You can explore another culture, broaden your thinking and knowledge. If you truly love your partner, you will accept the differences and they will make your marriage even better.
Thirdly, one of the partners can lose his or her identity. If you marry someone from another culture, means that you will live outside of your home. You and your children will not be able to see your family very often. You can even renounce your culture, heritage, religion or even language. As a consequence, your children will live far away from their grandparents and might have a language barrier. Moreover, you may have a hard time in understanding each other’s humor and in celebrating national celebrations.
Taking everything into account, if you want to have a happy marriage, you have to be devoted, understand your spouse’s lifestyle and world outlook. Sometimes it can be hard, but if you feel a pure and real love, everything will be possible. No matter how different you might be, a strong feeling of love can make your marriage successful. This is something you will have to determine for yourself and think if you can handle a different religion, culture and possible loss of your identity.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Different relationships in literature
In life we have a lot of types of relationships such as friendship, love/ romance, marriage/family and work/common activity relationships. Literature is a piece of writing that is valued as a work of art. In every book we can find different relationships between characters.
“Romeo and Juliet” is a tragedy written by William Shakespeare. In this story different types on relationships are revealed. It is now considered to be the greatest love story of all time. According to a famous literary critic Harold Bloom, “Romeo and Juliet” "is unmatched, in Shakespeare and in the world's literature, as a vision of uncompromising mutual love that perishes of its own idealism and intensity”. Romeo and Juliet are the main characters in the tragedy. It is one of Shakespeare's most beloved plays, having been turned into paintings, ballets, and several operas. Its hero even became a common noun: "a romeo" used to mean a lover. But it is largely Juliet who makes the play come alive.
Romeo and Juliet
Romeo Montague falls in love with his great enemies’ daughter Juliet Capulet. Their love is very special, as don’t matter how many obstacles they have in order to be together, they still love each other. In the beginning of the story, they are two teenage lovers. At first, their relationship is very romantic and passionate. Unfortunately, it is troubled, due to the fact that once Capulet has promised Paris he can marry Juliet. He behaves very arrogant toward her, acting as if they are already married.
After all, Romeo and Juliet’s relationships are special. They believe in a true love at first sight.
Romeo:
“See, how she leans her cheek upon her hand!
O, that I were a glove upon that hand,
That I might touch that cheek!”Although the plot describes Juliet as absurdly young, her passion is expressed with a fine intelligence and wit which makes her irresistible.
Juliet:
“Oh, Romeo, Romeo, why do you have to be Romeo?
Forget about your father and change your name.
Or else, if you won't change your name,
just swear you love me and I'll stop being a Capulet.”
Romeo:
“I trust your words.
Just call me your love, and I will take a new name.
From now on I will never be Romeo again.”
This is the most famous love scene shows Romeo lusting after the young girl he has just met at the masked ball. The balcony scene is about Juliet's decision that she loves Romeo, but hates The Montagues. The way out of this for them is to stop being Montagues and Capulets. Romeo and Juliet care about each other, as a result, they decide to get married. Romeo rushes to Friar Lawrence to ask him to marry the young couple. After marrying, Romeo's relationship with Juliet becomes even complex and involves many factors other than themselves. Romeo becomes a more active character who is capable of being involved in a complex romantic relationship. An important moment occurs when Romeo encounters his old enemy Tybalt . Unfortunately, Romeo eventually responds to Tybalt's challenge and kills him in a fight. For this murder, Romeo is banished to Mantua and separated from his new bride.
When he receives word, mistakenly, that Juliet is dead, Romeo is devastated and immediately decides to join her. Romeo finds Juliet's seemingly lifeless body in the tomb and says:
"I will stay with thee and never from this palace of dim night/
Depart again.”
After that, Romeo kills himself by ingesting poison. Committing suicide is Romeo's final and the most profound act. Romeo and Juliet's death brings peace between Montague and Capulet. Romeo and Juliet’s intimate relationship and eternal love has never died.
The nurse
Juliet’s nurse, the woman who has cared for Juliet her entire life. She is a vulgar, long-winded, and sentimental character. Also, the Nurse is Juliet’s faithful confidante in her affair with Romeo. The Nurse’s view of love is earthy and sexual, whereas Juliet is idealistic and intense. The Nurse believes in love and wants Juliet to have a nice-looking husband, but the idea that Juliet would want to sacrifice herself for love is incomprehensible to her. Their relationship is very close, as the nurse is like her mother and a friend. She knows her biggest secrets and still supports Juliet.
Friar Lawrence
Friar Lawrence occupies a strange position in “Romeo and Juliet”. He is a kind-hearted cleric, who helps Romeo and Juliet throughout the play. He performs their marriage and gives good advice. Friar Lawrence is also the most helpful and political of characters in the play: he marries Romeo and Juliet, because it is a part of a plan to end the civil strife in Verona; he spirits Romeo into Juliet’s room and then out of Verona; he devises the plan to reunite Romeo and Juliet through the deceptive ruse of a sleeping potion that seems to arise from almost mystic knowledge. In addition, though Friar Lawrence plays a huge role in helping Romeo and Juliet.
The Capulets
Capulet is the patriarch of the Capulet family, father of Juliet, husband of Lady Capulet, and enemy, for unexplained reasons, of Montague. He truly loves his daughter, though he is not well acquainted with Juliet’s thoughts or feelings. Their relations are very difficult and strained, as he doesn’t want to be emphatic or even understand Juliet’s wishes.
Lady Capulet - Juliet’s mother, Capulet’s wife. A woman who married young (she gave a birth to Juliet at the age of fourteen), she is eager to see her daughter marry Paris. Juliet’s relationships with her parents are very difficult. They think that they know better how Juliet should behave and live.
The feud between Montagues and Capulets
The cause of the feud has never been explained by Shakespeare. Romeo was from the Montagues family; Juliet was from the Capulets. They die because of the feud. The only thing that the reader knows, that it was something that lasted for a very long time. Shakespeare, however, didn't actually invent this story, someone else did. The cause may have been explained by the unknown author. They continued fighting because it was all they had ever known. Each family wanted more power than the other. They used words, swords and people as weapons. Due to the feuds, families had to suffer the death of the loved ones.
Lady Montague
Though the women don't speak or get involved in the fighting, it seems clear that each is tired of the situation.Lady Montague has only one question on her mind:“O, where is Romeo, saw you him today?
Right glad I am he was not at this fray.”
She didn't want her husband involved in a brawl, and she is worried about her son. She doesn't seem like a bad wife and mother. The Montagues are worried about their son. They want to know what is up with him, and they would like to be able to help him. This kind of relationship tells that their family is very strong and close.
The characters of this tragedy are very interesting. Every person has a connection with Romeo and Juliet. Some of them are against their friendship and love, the others understand their situation and help them. In this tragedy we can learn a lot from those characters’ behavior and find different types of relationships such as the friend, the lover, the spouse, and the parent relationships.
Monday, November 28, 2011
The 28th of November
Today it was very hard to wake up early in the morning, as the weather was really dreadful. The first lecture was LTA. We were analyzing a short story which wasn't interesting. The second lecture was grammar. We had to write a test based on inversions, prepositions, negations and pronouns. It was a very long and difficult test... The last lesson was DAK. We had some discussions about dating. It was interesting to hear various opinions about online dating and long-distance relationships. The day at university was quiet difficult. I was very happy when I got home. Unfortunately, then I realized that I have to study again...
Friday, November 25, 2011
What is friendship?
Friendship is a relationship between friends. Friends are essential in our lives, as every person needs a friend who can understand, support, and help him. Does everyone understand the meaning of a real friend? I think that in the 21st century the understanding of it has changed a lot. People are more reserved, selfish and are strangers to each other. Still, almost every day we meet new people and we communicate with them. Can we call it friendship? Or friendship is a long lasting connection between people? A true friendship consists of real feelings and a very strong and close relation between faithful souls. Furthermore, you have to find a difference between true and false friends in order to understand what is a real friend. Moreover, you have to devote yourself to relations between the most important people in your life.
First of all, a deep friendship is the most important thing. We have to understand the meaning of a firm friendship. What is that? Why do we need it? Is it a feeling or just an attachment? If you have a friend you feel needed, happy and make another person feel this way. Friendship is a priceless relation, which is significant to all the creatures of the universe. Faithful friends are beyond the price: no amount can balance their worth. We have to realize that friendship is the base of our lives.
Secondly, we have to see the difference between a fair-weather friend and an intimate friend. As the Bible says :”The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray”. Who walks with wise people will become wise himself, but who keeps company with fools will be destroyed. A close friend will stay together through thick and thin, he will always be by your side when you need a shoulder to cry on and will have the ability to understand another person’s feelings, thoughts and attitude. We have to remember that if we what to have a real friend, we have to be one.
Thirdly, a lifelong friendship is a devotion to one’s life. A cordial and enduring relation is built of time, feelings and trust. Every person has to treat another person like he wants to be treated. Friendship is based on honesty. You have to be reliable, friendly, generous and loyal, if you want to have a true friendship and if you want your friend to behave like this. “Cherish your friend, keep faith in him’’. By doing this, we will find the greatness of a lifelong friendship.
Taking everything into account, we usually think about what kind of friend is a true friend. But we don’t really think about what kind of friends we are. First, we have to look at ourselves and then judge another person. “The only unsinkable ship is FRIENDSHIP”. Friendship is the most valuable thing in the world. You have to understand the meaning of a beautiful friendship, recognize your true friends and be a committed friend.
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Today's DAK lecture
Love. What is love? "Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness" Oliver Wendell Holmes.
Today I was writing a paragraph based on this O.W.Holmes's quotation. I felt very strange, as I had to write my opinion about LOVE. It is a little bit hard to write about feelings, as nobody really knows what is LOVE. When I wrote a paragraph, I had to correct the mistakes of my groupmate's work. It was a very interesting experience, because I felt like a real teacher. Of course, it was very hard to correct it, as I couldn't understand the spelling of words. On the other hand, it was really great to read my groupmate's opinion about LOVE, because every person understands it in a different way. I am happy that we have such a creative lecturer! Her lectures are very interesting and useful. At the same time we can express our opinions, we can have a good discussion and learn English.
Now join your hands, and with your hands your hearts.
-- William Shakespeare
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Write better English
Writing is very important while learning English language. You have to know the grammar, a lot of words and a good knowledge of a language. I have found an article where I read some good information about improving writing skills.
First of all, vocabulary plays a major role in learning writing. You can improve it by reading books and learning the words which you do not know.Write definitions of those words and learn at least one word a day. Also, communicate with other people who have a good spoken language and chat with people who have a good written vocabulary. Moreover, use vocabulary-building software http://www.ultimatevocabulary.com/. It is a very successful way to build the excellent vocabulary (especially for those who don't like reading books).
Secondly, in order to write better, you have to improve your spelling. Purchasing a spelling software can help you to improve it http://www.write-better-english.com/get-help-with-spelling.aspx. Furthermore, I think that you have learn spelling rules and practise a lot in order to be good at spelling.
Thirdly, improve your reading skills. Reading other people's writing can help you to improve your own writing. I think that reading is the best way to learn how to write better as you can develop your spelling and vocabulary.
The last but the most important thing is grammar. Learn tenses, parts of speech, active and passive voice. Moreover, learn the basics of punctuation and the structure of writing. http://www.write-better-english.com/correct-grammar.aspx.
There are a lot of ways to improve your writing skills. The most important thing is your desire. If you really want to develop your writing skill, try these recommendations and you will write clear, correct and persuasive English.
The article which I commented on is from this website: http://www.write-better-english.com/
First of all, vocabulary plays a major role in learning writing. You can improve it by reading books and learning the words which you do not know.Write definitions of those words and learn at least one word a day. Also, communicate with other people who have a good spoken language and chat with people who have a good written vocabulary. Moreover, use vocabulary-building software http://www.ultimatevocabulary.com/. It is a very successful way to build the excellent vocabulary (especially for those who don't like reading books).
Secondly, in order to write better, you have to improve your spelling. Purchasing a spelling software can help you to improve it http://www.write-better-english.com/get-help-with-spelling.aspx. Furthermore, I think that you have learn spelling rules and practise a lot in order to be good at spelling.
Thirdly, improve your reading skills. Reading other people's writing can help you to improve your own writing. I think that reading is the best way to learn how to write better as you can develop your spelling and vocabulary.
The last but the most important thing is grammar. Learn tenses, parts of speech, active and passive voice. Moreover, learn the basics of punctuation and the structure of writing. http://www.write-better-english.com/correct-grammar.aspx.
There are a lot of ways to improve your writing skills. The most important thing is your desire. If you really want to develop your writing skill, try these recommendations and you will write clear, correct and persuasive English.
The article which I commented on is from this website: http://www.write-better-english.com/
Friday, November 11, 2011
Is it possible to study and work at the same time?
Life is very short and it is not long enough to do everything what you want in your life. Money is the power of our world and knowledge plays a huge role in order to have a good job and money. So if you want to have a well-paid job, you must have at least a bachelor's degree. But how can you study if you must have money for that? Of course, you have to work. For instance, students don't have enough of time to study, work, hang out with friends, travel or just relax..So that you have to chose between work, studies and friends. I can't pick just one thing. I am a student currently studying at university. I live alone, I have to pay for my flat, bills and take care of myself. For instance, I have to buy meal, clothes and many other things which are very important in order to live a proper life. That means that I have to work. Also, I have to study in order to be a wise person and have a better job and life. It is hard to do such things at once, but if you are very determined, active, accurate and smart person, you can work and study. Of course, you won't have friends and your own life. It is every person's choise how he want to live.
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